A word against Misappropriation…. Biloxigirl style

So I’ve been pretty absent from the wordpress world for a while now.  I’ve been focusing on school and my kids, dealing with custody for my step-daughter, among other things that life threw my way.  Wordpress just wasn’t far up on that priority for me.

That’s not to say that I don’t love writing for y’all (my whole 2 followers, I think).  I love writing but my thoughts have been so jumbled as of late.

However, my final English assignment asked me to write about something Argumentative/Persuasive.  My initial thought was Abortion.  But how played out is that?  I’m sure hundreds, if not thousands, of students nation wide choose abortion to be their topic of choice.  But then, then I thought I would do the importance of the Supreme Court’s decision on Gay Marriage- and argue a case FOR it, as I am adamantly 100% about HUMAN rights, and the right to marry is one of the oldest “rights” afforded to humans.

So I turned to Facebook in search of suggestions and opinions on which should be written.  I got numerous replies and suggestions.  But, one stuck out more than the rest.  Ms Kayla Faith herself, suggested that I write about the Misappropriation of  the Native American Culture- knowing that it is a huge controversial topic, but one that’s swept under the rug most of the time by ignorance and laziness.  With her help, and some first hand experience about the issue (Thanks to my naivety  on the topic when BHS was in the spot-light for their mascot= and if you’re just tuning in, BHS is my alma mater and I still love that school), I wrote an Essay that I’m quite proud of.  Kayla read it over, sent me some suggestions and revisions (which I pretty much used all of!) and with a deep breath I blindly (because I had my eyes closed…don’t judge me… I wasn’t sure I was able to capture the importance this topic deserves) clicked “Submit assignment” on my CANVAS page for school and shut my laptop.

This topic does hit home for me, and not in the way it does most.  Fortunately for me, I am on the right side of this controversy.  Again, I owe a lot of that to Deloria Many Grey Horses, Kayla Faith, Jean-Luc Pierite, and anyone else who has taken the time to listen to me, and talk with me in a way that was not condescending or pretentious, so I could understand just how NOT trivial this is to the Native Americans.  I am not ashamed or embarrassed to say that I credit most of my successful essay to these fine men and women who fight a never ending, up hill battle for respect for their Nation and the Indigenous Peoples who feel like they don’t have a voice.  I have lost a lot of “friends” and have caught a lot of flack over supporting the removal of Native American mascots; but I stand up for what I believe in.

Here is the paper I wrote and submitted.

Misappropriation of the Native American Culture

Cultural misappropriation of any culture is not a thing of the past.  As the world around us becomes more and more globalized, elements from various cultures become shared; however, some elements, which may be sacred, can be disrespected as they are used out of context.  This abusive disrespect has caused many around the world to call for an end of the misappropriation of their cultures by those who are not of that culture. The Indigenous peoples are no exception to this mistreatment.  Since the 1960s, when Native American civil rights movements erupted alongside the blacks, many Native and Native-led groups have been fighting stereotypes and racism, often rooted in Western Film and genocidal national policy.  These battles include removing race-based mascots from schools and sports teams, and battling cultural appropriation of sacred items found increasingly at an international level.

While most arguments in opposition seem focused on the economic downside of changing a name or logo, others focus on the alleged legacy and memories created under that mascot design or name. Even so, the majority focuses on the supposed lack of racist or derogatory intent related to these names and mascots.  Many who attempt to dismiss this issue insist that a team’s use of this derogatory name or mascot is a victimless crime.  A lot of fans and alumni are of the mindset that because they don’t believe they actively discriminate against Native Americans, then it is completely acceptable to use a misrepresented depiction of a “Native America”.  Some of these misrepresentations include carrying a tomahawk and screaming a fake battle cry, as if these behaviors correctly depict all indigenous people.  Some, still, use the “I’m part (insert Native American tribe here) and I don’t find it offense.  So it isn’t.” excuse as to why they are going to continue to misappropriate a culture and “heritage” they know nothing of.

            For people who have grown up in that culture their entire lives, or those who have gone back after finding out their true lineage, this isn’t a game, nor a joke. This is real.  A lot of people assume because some tribes haven’t spoken out directly about a mascot, headdress, or racial and derogatory indigenous names being used and abused, that it isn’t bothersome and it isn’t an issue.  What outsiders often fail to realize is each tribe operates as a sovereign nation; a tribe deciding to speak on behalf of its membership must carefully consider the political and economic implications of its vocalization.  Simply because they choose not to acknowledge it, or speak out about it, does not mean they do not find it hurtful or demeaning, and it certainly does not mean that it is not something that should be reevaluated and changed.

Schools and sports teams across the nation still adopt a hurtful name or mascot despite many protest against them.  Some schools and sports teams, however, have adopted new names and mascots that are not offensive, as a response to the Indigenous people’s pleas for respect and understanding.   The continual use of racist and derogatory has been proven to establish an unwelcome and hostile learning environment for Indigenous people, who to this day remain the only race stereotyped in mascots.  Native American communities see the lowest percentage of high school graduates and one of the highest percentage of drop-outs.  Test conducted by medical PhD’s have concluded that being in the presence of Native American mascots, or schools with Native American logos, is directly related to low self-esteem and lower moods among Native American youth, stemming into early adulthood.  Studies also showed that discrimination in the form of racial slurs, racial harassment, and child-hood bullying is associated with poor mental health and depression.

Stereotypical representations are far too often misunderstood as factual representations of actual tribes or groups of people, which can cause many real issues within the Native American communities.  Poverty within Native American communities is nearly double the national average, they suffer extreme health disparities, and suicide in the second-leading cause of death among 15-24 year olds, which is two and a half times higher than the national average for that age bracket.  Native American youth are also becoming increasingly violent.  Around 75% of the deaths among the youth are due to violent and intentional injuries, homicide, and suicide.  Native American women are also two and a half times more likely to be raped or sexually assaulted and in at least 86% of those cases, the offender was a non-native man.  These statistics can be connected to how others view Native Americans, as well as how they view themselves.

Recently, in Biloxi, there was a minor debate over the headdresses the Biloxi High School band wore at a performance in Washington DC.  This performance was taped and aired all over the nation.  Several Indigenous people were offended, began a petition to request the removal of the headdress, and contacted the school board in Biloxi about the misuse of the Native Headdress.  The Biloxi High Indians, my alma mater, has been called the “Indians” for many decades.  To a Biloxi High School graduate, “Indians” is a term of endearment, nothing racial or derogatory, just a long-standing and well-celebrated “tradition”.  To many BHS graduates, being an Indian was a source of great pride.  No one had ever heard, or even though, the term would be harmful or hurtful to anyone, least of all those who the “Indians” were modeled after:  The Tunica Biloxi Tribe- those who settled in Biloxi, and named this beautiful city.  Everyone’s answers were the same: “We respect the Tribe in question.  We do not believe it is offensive.  If it was, they would have said something years ago about it.” 

At the time of the controversy, nothing had been heard from the Tunica-Biloxi Tribe.  I came in contact with some incredible people who opened my eyes to just how detrimental this “tradition” really is.  Around that time, Jean-Luc Pierite, the son of a Tribe member in the Tunica-Biloxi Tribe, released a statement to the local newspaper about his, and the Tribe’s, feelings about the mascot issue surrounding Biloxi.  He called it a “mockery”, and his parents released their own statement later, referring to the decisions as “ill-informed” and “hurtful”.  Unfortunately, the school board decided to keep the mascot as well as the “Indian” name, despite the information given by the Tribe that they never wore those headdresses, and whomever they were “honoring”, was in fact, not the Tunica-Biloxi Tribe.

Not only are Indigenous peoples depicted unfairly through school mascots, they are also unfairly and inaccurately depicted in movies.  This has been true since John Wayne and the Wild West era, often describing a biased white settlement of America, predominately in the 1950s.  However, this issue continues to this day.  Recently, six Native Americans walked off the set of the new Adam Sandler movie “Ridiculous Six”.  Their reason for leaving was the horrific jokes, rude names, and the incredibly inaccurate depictions of Natives that were to be exhibited in the movie.   Adam Sandler hired a Native elder to assist with cultural sensitivity issues, but refused to listen to any of the elder’s complaints of the appropriation of his and other Native cultures. For instance, names like “Sits-on-face”, “Beaver Breath”, or “No Bra” might sound funny to some people, but to the Native American culture, where women are often celebrated with great dignity and spiritual power, it is anything but humorous.  Many people lashed out and referred to those who left as “crybabies”, or inferring they needed to get off of their mother’s breast and grow up.  The majority of these comments come from those who see little to no problem with cultural misappropriation of any culture:  black, white, Native American, and so on.

During the debate about my Alma Mater, as I previously stated, I met some incredible people who had such insight into this issue.  One, in particular, is a young lady named Kayla.  She spoke to the United Nations in Geneva about the cultural misappropriation of Native Americans.  Her dedication and hard work on this controversial topic is helping open the eyes of many people, like me, who were set in their ways and didn’t want to see the truth.  She, and another fantastic lady named Deloria, are the two biggest supporters of this movement, in my opinion.  They have both done so much to get the word out and support Indigenous peoples and show the world how to receive and understand true Native American cultures.  I am honored and also blessed to have been a part of this on-going movement.

In conclusion, misappropriation of an entire culture is both unacceptable and wrong, especially in this day and age.  It is harmful to Native American youth and adults, and it is harmful to non-native youth and adults because they perpetuate the stereotype and the discrimination against indigenous people.  The continued racism and discrimination against Native Americans sends people of all nations and genders the wrong message.  It does not teach acceptance; it only teaches hate, which contributes to the suicide rates of young indigenous peoples and the dehumanization, rape, and abuse of indigenous women.

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Thank you to any and all who bothered to take the time to read this.  If you feel it’s worth a share, please don’t hesitate.  Maybe you can help someone learn something, or learn something yourself.


2015: The Modern Dark Ages

It’s 2015.  Grease powered cars, robots, smart phones, smart computers….and dumb people.

In 2015, when information about anything and EVERYTHING is at the tip of your fingers, just one google/bing/yahoo search away, one click of a button, I cannot believe how ignorant and uninformed people are.  It boggles my mind that people still behave they way they do, about things they aren’t educated on.  Why?  When more than 80% of households have computers or smart phones, why are there still so many people who unable to make educated decisions?

It seems, to me anyway, that the more computer dependent we get, the more people shy away from the realities of the world.  I don’t understand how, with all of the technology we now have, how people are comfortable being ignorant to the ways of the world.

Lets take pit bulls, for example.  The media coverage of pit bulls has many people on edge about being around, or owning one.  I’d say at least half of the attacks that the media gets a hold of, the dogs aren’t even of that breed.  They are usually mixes of other large breed dogs, but because they are big, and they attacked someone, automatically a pit bull.  Rotties and chows used to have the same stigma.  Shepherds, dalmatians.  All these dogs thought to be born naturally aggressive.  News flash.  ALL DOGS ARE AGGRESSIVE.  At least for one reason, or another.  Maybe not aggressive towards humans, but to cats, or other dogs….all dogs are innately aggressive. Sure, not all dogs would be able to kill you.  My mom has a chihuahua and he’s the meanest dog I’ve ever met.  He’s a vicious ankle biter.  It doesn’t matter much now, because he’s old and has no teeth, but when he had teeth- watch out!  He drew blood.  No, it wasn’t life threatening.  Did it hurt?  Of course.  But JUST because it was a non-fatal bite, does not mean that he wasn’t aggressive.  A child who beats up another child is still aggressive, even if the punch couldn’t really do much harm.  It’s no different from an adult beating up another adult.  Simply because they have more power and force than a child, doesn’t mean that the child ISN’T aggressive.  Because of their size, their attack wouldn’t be lethal.  Of course, that changes the older and bigger they get.  Some people who own pit bulls miss out on a lot of things.  Trips to the dog parks, great houses in fantastic areas, all because of the ban or dislike of a misunderstood dog breed.  Because people are too lazy to do any real research, or just don’t care to, they perpetuate the ridiculous stereotype these dogs get. Like every other animal (4 legged or 2 legged), it’s the way they are treated and brought up that determines their temperament and behavior.

I’ve owned a pit bull/mix for the last 11 years.  Only one was aggressive  she was older when we got her and her life story prior to us was sketchy.  We didn’t know what kind of home she’d been in (though we knew that she’d recently had puppies and when they were weaned, her owners kicked her out– she still had milk when she was found, dirty and wet in a ditch).  With owners like that, it’s typical that she was just used to have puppies, the puppies sold, and they didn’t want her anymore.  We didn’t know if she’d been physically abused, if she was used as a fight/bait dog.  She was in such poor shape when she was found, it was hard to tell.  No one came to claim her, so we never knew what she came from.  She was aggressive after a few years of us having her.  She killed 2 of our other dogs, so we did have to get rid of her.  I currently have a pit bull puppy.  He will be 1-year-old on July 4th.  He’s not aggressive.  But I’ve had him from the second he was born.  LITERALLY.  He was born into my hands, sac intact.  I had to get him out of it and get him cleaned up and everything.  He’s been in my arms, and in my home, since he took his first breath.  I -KNOW- my dog is not aggressive or anything like people think pit bulls are.

Or lets move on to snakes or other animals.  No body bothers checking whether or not they are dangerous before trying to kill them.  I think it’s unfair, and disgusting, that we are so self-absorbed that we can’t take an extra 10 seconds to research a life we are about to end, but can take 3 minutes to post about it on FB, twitter, take pictures and video, and then cheer each other on as we brutally murder something because we don’t know what it is.

And the worst part-  this happens to our own species.  People are killed every day because of their color, gender, or sexual orientation simply because people are misinformed and they believe in the stereotypes.  Instead of trying to learn about people, we push forward with our close-minded way of thinking, refuse to listen to any facts (or evidence) to support another opinion, and just eradicate what we don’t understand.

Or, lets move on to spelling and punctuation!  These days you have to go OUT OF YOUR WAY to misspell something.  There is spell check on every computer, every phone, EVERY SINGLE APP.  That red squiggly line underneath some of your words?  Yeah, that’s to let you know that you spelled it wrong-  but normally it auto corrects if for you, and you don’t have to worry about it.  How in the world, with all of this technology, do people still not understand the different uses of there, their, they’re.  Or your and you’re.  I don’t get it!  I don’t know if it’s because of this “no child left behind” crap that schools have adopted, or if people are proud that they sound like they have no education or common sense.  I don’t understand it.  I don’t understand how people can be okay presenting themselves in such a manner.

To me, in this day and age, it is completely and totally unacceptable.  There is absolutely no excuse that anyone, no matter how young or old, should think and behave this way.  This infuriates me to no end.  People are lazy, and it’s ridiculous.  I cannot stand ignorance.  This goes way past naivety.  This is willful IGNORANCE.  If you don’t want to learn about another culture, religion, or animal to properly educate yourself, then that’s your God-given right.  No one will force you.  But if you want to remain with your head stuck in the sand, if you want to refuse to use any and all options available to you to educate yourself, you probably should remain silent.

It is better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt.
–   Abraham Lincoln

I mean, it really IS that simple.  Educate yourselves so you have something intelligent and helpful to contribute, or don’t say anything at all because you’ll look like an idiot.  And that look isn’t cute on anyone.  Educate yourself on any topic you feel like you need to speak out or have an opinion about.  As a “free country” there is nothing stopping you, other than your own laziness complacent attitude.  Be proactive- be dependent-  HAVE AN EDUCATED OPINION!

Prejudices, Racism, and Discrimination. Oh My!


preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience.


the belief that all members of each race possess characteristics or abilities specific to that race, especially so as to distinguish it as inferior or superior to another race or races.


treatment or consideration of, or making a distinction in favor of or against, a person or thing based on the group, class, or category to which that person or thing belongs rather than on individual merit.



There has been so much going on within the US lately, regarding all three topics.  Ferguson, Baltimore, police brutality, gay rights, and more locally, the Native American headdress at Biloxi High School.  Of course that’s not all that’s happened, but it’s what been most reflected in the news. Each and every single incident I just listed falls deep within the three categories I listed above.

Not one single race of people is innocent of prejudices, racism, or discrimination.  Not one single person is innocent of it either.  Whether you’ve said it out-loud, or only thought it, even if just in passing or as a “joke”, every person is guilty.  Blacks, whites, Mexicans, Asians, Jews, homosexuals, heterosexuals, Natives..the list goes on and on.  Of course, not every race has suffered the same injustices.  Natives were slaughtered, their women raped, their land stolen.  Africans were sold into slavery and forced to endure evil slave owners, their women and children also raped and beaten- some killed.  Jews were forced into concentration camps and murdered.  All horrific things done at the hand of “the white man“.   No matter how many years ago it happened, it still plagues people today.

All this “white privilege” stuff…I hate hearing it.  It really irks me.  I absolutely hate it.  That, in and of itself, is racist with prejudice, and discrimination.  Of course, SOME white people DO feel that they are better than other races for one reason or another.  But the same can be said for any other race.  Saying (all) white people are privileged is like saying (all) black people are thugs, drug dealers, and murders.  Or that (all) Native Americans are alcoholics. It’s just simply not the case.  Statistically, and stereotypically, both may be true.  However, generalizing one race/group of people as such does nothing to help the racial divide that’s already too wide in this country.

Every single race, every single person is discriminated against for one reason or another.  Natives are discriminated against because they are thought to be alcoholics.  Blacks because they are thought to be thugs.  Whites because they are thought to feel “privileged”.  Asians because they are supposed to be super smart.  Mexicans because they can’t learn the English language.  Jews because they are thought to be stingy with money.  Rich people because they’re thought to be snobby.  Poor people because they are thought to be lazy and unmotivated.  Fat people because they are thought to be lazy and gross.  Skinny people because they are thought to be anorexic.  Blonde-haired, blue-eyed females because they are thought to be preppy and snobby.  Women because they are thought to be the weaker sex. Men because they have to masculine or macho.  Homosexuals because it’s against God’s plan.  Religious people because they believe in something “imaginary“.  Atheists because they believe in science.  Special needs people because they are “retarded”.  This list goes ON AND ON. Every. Single. Person. Suffers. Discrimination.

Of course, none of that can compare to those who’ve lost their lives due to one of the issues above.  Whites kill blacks simply because of their skin color.  Blacks kill whites for the same reason.  Heterosexuals kill homosexuals.  Men kill women.  Women kill men.  People ridicule fat people.  Poor people.  Gossip flys around about rich people.  Not one single person is safe from racism or discrimination.  Not one.  No race, religion, creed, sex, sexual orientation, height, weight is safe from the rudeness of another.

The one thing that everyone seems to forget is that we are all human.  We all bleed red.  We all hurt and get offended.  Inside, we are ALL THE SAME.

As an overweight female, who came from a poor family, I’ve had my fair share of discrimination and racism.  Because I am fat, I’m automatically lazy.  Because I’m fat,  I can’t be attractive or worth being with (relationship or friendship wise).  Because I’m white, I automatically feel “privileged” and am racist.  Let me tell you one thing…there has been NOTHING about my life that’s been privileged.  Friends were hard to get, jobs were hard to get- simply based on my weight.  I’ve been arrested on unpaid tickets.  No, I’ve never been pulled over for “fitting the description” or for “suspicious activity” because I obey the law (except those unpaid tickets…whoopsie!), NOT because I am white.  White people get picked on by cops just like black people, or any other race.  Just because it isn’t media broadcasted and youtubed every time it happens, does not mean it doesn’t happen.  There are no factual evidence to justify that way of thinking.  The only thing that’s different is that in this day and age, people are so attached to their phones, that in a split second, they are recording and documenting something.   It’s all circumstantial, at best.  Just opinions of opinions based on biased sources.  That’s all.  And that works both ways.

Justifying the actions of one race (based on a few experiences) is unfair.  Any justification, from any race.   But just like not every black person is a criminal, not every white person sees them as such.  I don’t.  Knowing how it feels to be discriminated against because of my sex, weight, or race, I couldn’t put someone else through that.  Of course I’m not perfect and some mean thoughts cross my mind when someone pisses me off, but I try to be objective and see their points of view.  Not everyone does, and I get that.

These riots that are happening…I can’t pretend I know what black America is feeling.  Yes, it looks like whites are out to get them because of the media coverage of these black teens who were killed.  Despite evidence and witness testimonies,  a lot of people are going to feel the way they feel.  And they feel attacked, picked on, belittled, segregated.  But I know that they aren’t the only ones who are discriminated against based on race.  They aren’t the only ones who have ancestors who went through hell because of the color of their skin.

There is a sense of entitlement in today’s society.  Everyone feels entitled to one thing or another because of the injustices  against their race, against their ancestors.  Everyone feels entitled because of what their great-great-grandmother’s cousin’s friend’s mother’s brother’s daughter experienced, something that they (the ones who didn’t experience it and probably don’t know the 100% truth) are upset/offended about.  I do understand that racism is alive and well in this country.  Trust me.  I see it every day on the news, on social media, and in real life.  I am not blind and I do not deny that fact.

Truth be told, people suck.  Not just white people.  All people.  We suck.  WE all suck.  We continually fuss about other races picking on us for one reason or another, then turn right around and do the exact same thing to another race.  We continually perpetuate the stereotypes.  All of us.  We maintain our stances and behind closed doors, turn into the same jerks that we were complaining about 10 minutes ago.  We smile in people’s faces and as soon as their backs are turned, we bad-mouth them.  We pick fights with people behind the protection of a computer screen.  We ridicule someone because of their weight, their hair, their shoes, their fashion choices.  We riot and gather in parks and fight.  We kill.  PEOPLE. SUCK.

So, how do we fix this?

I don’t think there is any one single, simple fix.  I think a lot of things need to happen.  And it will take a long time.  But the first, and maybe most important thing we can do, is STOP listening to the media.  The media perpetuates racism and feeds the public misinformation.  This is when people riot or start attacking other folks, and have NO idea what is really going on.  The media twists information, leaves out information, posts pictures that are unrelated to the thing they are reporting on, just to make a dollar.  And all were are doing is allowing it.  Take, for example, when the media reported that the bloods, crips, and another gang were banding together AGAINST the police in Baltimore.  That threw everyone into a frenzy.  Then a few hours later, they reported that they had actually banded together to PROTECT the police in Baltimore.  But, by the time they reported the TRUTH, it was too late.  And that’s how it works.

We HAVE to stop killing each other.  WE HAVE TO.

We need to learn to respect people.  We need to learn to not be judgmental when first meeting someone who is a different color, or religion.  We need to be open-minded.  We need to be accepting and understanding.  We need to be compassionate.  And we need to STOP teaching our children to be racist.  It may be too late for some of us older folks.  But our children…our children ARE our future.  Our children absorb everything we teach them..directly or indirectly.  If you would be upset if a child was racist towards your child- the feelings that you feel when someone is racist towards you- WHY on earth would you teach an innocent child to intentionally hurt others who aren’t like them?

As a mother of 3 children (8, 6, and 4-  two of them in public school), I try to raise my children to not be judgmental or mean towards another person.  When someone hurts their feelings about something, be it another child in school or a family member, I remind them of how they feel and that they should never do/say anything like what that person said to them. My daughter gets upset because people pick on her name.  Her name is London.  Naturally, kids sing “London bridge is falling down” and it irritates her.  She lashes out, because that’s just what kids do.  But I try my BEST to explain to her that just because someone hurts her, does NOT mean that she has to hurt them back.  I try my best to tell her that some people are just not raised right and have no respect and that she shouldn’t worry about what other people think.  As long as she is happy with her name (or whatever it is that others may tease about) then no one else’s opinions should matter.  And it angers me that people are raising rude children who bully others.  Luckily, my daughter refuses to tell me names of the children who have said something to her.  She knows I’ll go buck-ass wild on the teachers and parents.  I’m crazy and my daughter knows it. *shrug*

But I digress.

We need to come together, as HUMANS.  Not as blacks, whites, men, women, etc.  But as people.  People with hearts and brains.  People want discrimination and racism to end.  What are you doing about it?  What are YOUR contributions to the fight against racism?  To end the injustices and discrimination that we all face, for one reason or another?  What are you doing to ensure a safe and happy environment for your children, or grand-children?

Do me a favor.  Take a second to just think.  Think about the people in your life- the people on your facebook.  Think of the mean things you’ve thought or said.  Now, think how it would have made you feel had they said something like that to you, or to one of your children.  Realize what you’re doing to yourself, your environment, and your children.  Realize what you’re doing to future of this country.  Have some compassion and empathy.

Apologize to someone today, for something that you’ve said or done to intentionally hurt them.  Do something nice for someone today-  someone you would not normally associate with.  Show some kindness, be it a smile to an elderly person who’s walking just a little too slow, helping a child reach an item at the store, helping a lady with 4 kids put her groceries in her car, paying for someone’s coffee, or saying “it’s okay, it’s not a problem” to someone who keeps screwing up and you’re doing everything you can not to scream and punch them in the face.

Karma works both ways, people!!!!!

Be a good person today….and strive for it every day.  No one is perfect, but once a day, each person can do ONE thing to make someone else’s day just a little bit better.

Just a Biloxi girl….Who has opened her eyes.


Sometimes, that’s really all I have to offer in a conversation.  Just… “…wow…“.  That word has pretty much summed up the last two weeks for me.

First, let me tell you a little bit about me.  I am a graduate of Biloxi High (C/O 2004).  I have lived here, in beautiful Biloxi, Mississippi all but 2 months of my life (and I’ll be 30 in November).  This beautiful city is where I grew up.  Where almost every single one of my fondest memories was made.  This is where I created, and birthed my 3 beautiful children.  This amazing city is where I will raise them.  And I will most likely live out my remaining days here.  My pride, and my love for the coast, runs deep.  Very deep, in my blood.  My great-grandparents (Needy Blunt and Ruth) are of Native American descent.  Cherokee and Seminole, I’ve been told.  It is unfortunate that I was still too young to learn much from them (and to be quite honest, I wasn’t interested), as my mawmaw passed when I was 8, and my pawpaw 3 years later when I was 11.  I still miss them, and think about them, every single day, though.  They lived in Biloxi, and were very prominent people here along the coast.  Building, chartering boats, owning property-  the Stanley name still stands strong.

Now, I know I will probably get a lot of flack for this blog.  And I may even lose a few “friends” on Facebook who still cannot see the truth.  But hey, sometimes you just have to “let it go“.  I certainly will not lose any sleep at night.

Initially, my “wow” focused on an “outsider” complaining about the Biloxi High School headdress that the marching band wore when they performed in DC.  I mean, how DARE anyone take a stab at my alma mater’s choice of uniform or school name.  Yeah, I was mad and offended.  Why?  Because…how DARE someone who isn’t from Biloxi, criticize Biloxi!

All of our opinions were the same.  We were “honoring” The Biloxi, that settled here and is the reason the city is named what it’s named. We “felt pride” while wearing the uniforms, or while watching the band perform.  Now, there is no doubt what-so-ever that Biloxi alumni are proud of where they hail from.  This is very, very evident based on the number of signatures our very own petition: 2,103 signatures!  Most of them, alumni of Biloxi High School.  We were winning.  Victory was declared with 2,103 signatures.  We HAD won.  There is no doubt that most of us truly felt that we were honoring The Biloxi and our own (no matter what percent) Native American lineage.  No matter how misplaced that justification was.  We were standing behind it.

Numerous discussions about the headdress happened on the alumni pages- both for the school, and the one created by fellow alumni.  No one could figure out why anyone would be offended by something we felt was beautiful and dear to our hearts and our “tradition”.  A lot of us, myself included, kept using words like “heritage” and “tradition”. In fact, I think most of our posts and messages back and forth, were littered with nothing more than those two words, and some “my so-and-so is Native American” justification.  I was quoted, in one of the articles from the opposing side, as having said “If in fact the Tunica-Biloxi tribe has an issue with our headdress, we will come to a compromise”.  And that’s EXACTLY what happened.

Tunica-Biloxi has a voice, despite some claims that the blood line is more extinct than T-Rex.  Their voice is none other than a Tunica-Biloxi tribe member, Jean-Luc Pierite.  His response to the Sun Herald (and a radio show– skip to 31:25 to hear about the headdresses) about the issue really opened my eyes.  It was at this time that I started to question whether or not we, as Biloxi alumni and/or residents, truly had the best of intentions.  Some alumni felt that this was the tribe’s way of saying “We don’t care-  it’s not offensive.  Do what you do.”  Wait, what?  Seriously?  How did you get that out reading this article?  Jean-Luc said:

“The headdress worn by the Biloxi High School band is an ill-informed costume-design choice.

That said, our communities are faced with such challenges that if a group of outsiders would parade in mockery under the guise of honor, then it wouldn’t make much difference.”

Are you people even reading the same article I’m reading?  Maybe you are reading it in a different language…that no one else speaks.  I don’t know, and I honestly don’t care.  I guess the only thing that stuck out to some was “it wouldn’t make much difference” and decided that this was approval and permission to continue the out-dated “tradition” of using a race of people as a mascot.  He said mockery, people.  MOCKERY.  This is the truest, most heartfelt opinion about the Tribe’s feelings that he could give.  The fact is:  we are not honoring them.  At all.  Period.  End of discussion.  There are ifs, ands, or buts.  It’s a done deal.  All these years, it’s been viewed as nothing but a mockery.  And an imaginary honorary tradition.  It was quite clear to me what this article said, even if just in the undertones of it.

Some also felt that his article was an attack directed towards Deloria Many Grey Horses, who originated the petition to change the uniform of the marching band.  By the end of his article, he suggest that people educate themselves on his tribe.  Many people thought he was directing that to the opposition.  Wrong.  So. Very. Wrong.  His target was none other than those in favor of supporting the headdress and mascot.  Those who claimed it to be “heritage”, “tradition” and “in honor of”.  Those who claimed “honor” then in the next sentence said something disparaging towards a Native American culture.  Oh, okay.  So it’s okay to make a “joke” about something, but it’s not okay when those you are joking about take offense?  Right….

Deloria Many Grey Horses has a picture on several of these articles.  It is of her, holding a sign that says “#notyourmascotbiloxi”.  Many of the alumni, sadly including myself, took a stab at this.  Many negative remarks were made.  Things like “Of course she’s not.  She’s not even American.” or “She is psycho.  Of COURSE she’s not our mascot.  Who is stupid enough to want her as one?

Many people felt that Deloria has an agenda.  A personal vendetta, for no good reason.  I, too, felt that she was just attacking the school because she could.  I did extensive research on Deloria prior to Jean-Luc’s article.  I did even more after.  What did I find?  I found that Deloria, in fact, DOES have an agenda.  GASP!  Of course she does. Her agenda is this:  to bring an end to the racism and discrimination towards Native People.  Towards ALL people.  She aims to educate the populace about the negative effects these types of incidents have on our youth.  OUR YOUTH.  Not just Native American youth.  Deloria is focused on the world-  not just certain parts of it.  Upon my research of Deloria, I found that she has been proactive for many years, helping to end the injustice Native American’s face.

“Injustice?  WHAT INJUSTICE?!  We aren’t discriminating against Natives!  WE ARE HONORING THEM!”

Okay.  Let me put it to you like this.  We know racism is alive and thriving in the US.  We know that Mississippi is still regarded as a racist state (and that was painfully made obvious by some of the uneducated comments directed towards alumni on some of the articles written).  You see it every day on your news feed.  Ferguson, Baltimore-  police brutality.  It’s there.  Every single day.   You see it, so you know it exists.  That’s the problem here.  Most people don’t see the discrimination towards the Native American populace.  So because it’s not seen, it means it doesn’t exist.  Because you don’t discriminate against any one person, or group of people, does NOT mean that others feel the way you do.  That is a sorely delusional way of thinking.  Try using a bit of logic.  And a LOT of compassion and understanding.

Deloria is a powerful voice of the Native American people, where most others are too afraid of have one.  She has won numerous awards for her activities in trying to better the world we live in and educate the youth about the misappropriation of the Native culture.  She has been extremely polite and diplomatic regarding the issue, despite the numerous hurdles she had to cross, one of which was having to PROVE she was a real person because a Biloxi alumni reported her for hate speech, and for being fake because of her Native American name. She has had every right to be mean and nasty to those who have messaged her or made direct comments to her.  She’s done very well, keeping her composure.  Others, well, that’s a different story.  But those select few who took it too far, did so of their own accord.  Deloria did not send them to do such.  They took it upon themselves.  Deloria has a good heart and a beautiful soul.  She is genuinely an incredible person with a phenomenal vision of bettering the world we live in, and providing a more understanding and accepting world for our youth.  I reached out to Deloria, only to be greeted with open arms and understanding of my initial position on the matter.  I am forever thankful that she took the time to read my message and respond to it.

How do so many of you STILL not see a problem here?

 I have done much soul-searching after Jean-Luc’s article.  My eyes were opened and my opinion was changed.  I am appalled that some of you (as in BHS alumni) continue on like nothing is wrong.  How the rest of you continue to walk blindly towards a short-lived “victory”, simply because you misunderstood someone’s intentions and words.  I am disgusted in myself, for even taking part in the support of the mascot and headdress, knowing what I know now.  Knowing how the Tunica-Biloxi tribe feels.  Knowing that they do not find anything honorable about being mocked and discriminated against.

I think some of you may need to do the same.  Truly educate yourself on the Tunica-Biloxi tribe.  Educate yourselves on the day-to-day issues Native Americans face.  Educate yourselves before opening your mouths and commenting on something that you have no grasp of.  Don’t continue to be a part of the problem. I encourage you to find ways to be part of the solution.  Not just for Native Americans, but for all walks of life.  Find a way to educate others on the perils of discrimination and the horrible effects of racism.  Find a way to be proactive in the direction this country is taking.

Please understand that I am still proud of the school I hail from.  But not because of the mascot or because of the name of our sports team.  I am a proud graduate of an incredible institution with amazing teachers, amazing alumni, and an incredible atmosphere in general.  No matter what we are called.  “Indians” or “Schuckers” (and what a God awful name THAT is!) – our name does not denote the accomplishments we’ve made as a school.  It is our determination and love for fellow alumni that has brought us to where we are today.

“What’s in a name?  That which we would call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet.” – Juliet Capulet

Well, hello, Shakespeare.  Nice to see that some of your wisdom still applies today.